Tell everyone you love that you love them. Don’t wait. Do it today.
Listen and strengthen your ability to hear what the quiet teaches.
Remember, things look differently when we take the time to feel things differently.
The hard truth is that life will absolutely break your heart sometimes. The gift is that in that breaking, the heart can reassemble its pieces over time and become even a stronger life force, often strongest at the once-broken places.
Quiet is not the absence of noise, it’s the absence of turmoil.
We Share Everything
We are bound to each other by this tiny planet we share. Everything that happens to one of us impacts all of us no matter how long it takes the circle to come around.
Put your hand on your heart and know that life is good enough and strong enough to hold you and that you are brave enough and resilient enough to hold life right back.
Don't wait until you have the perfect plan, because it doesn't exist. Don't wait until you have done exhaustive analysis, either. Even if it's true that the unexamined life is not worth living, the over-examined life is paralyzying and pretty self-defeating, too.
Take Back Your Life
We come into the world new, but grow old before our time because of trauma, both that is inflicted upon us and the trauma we inflict upon ourselves by never moving beyond the pain. Moving beyond the pain doesn’t mean denying that it hurt like hell, or by hibernating or going into cold storage. It means moving beyond it, even as you live with the acknowledgement of it having really happened to you, and the compassion you show yourself in that acknowledgement. Take back your life.
Be the Good You Seek
Find something to be grateful for every day. This requires the willingness to not only see the good, but to seek it. There are a hundreds of way to find supporting evidence of an argument for good or bad. Look for the evidence of the good and be the good you seek.
The Pursuit of Resilience
If the pursuit of happiness is one of humankind’s inalienable rights, the pursuit of resilience is one of our fundamental imperatives.
Don't withhold love from yourself because you aren’t perfect. Nobody is perfect, never have been, never will be. Besides, perfection holds you back from being authentic.
The Heart and Mindset of Possibility
Resilience is the heart and mindset of possibility, capability and recoverability. Resilience is a mindset that refuses to be defined by circumstance, but instead, by hope.
Funny how life circles back on itself,
with or without our desire or consent,
to show us the people we might become
Consider that every breath you take in this life is a chance to begin again, both in your own life and in the lives of others.
Learn to be still so you can better hear what you life is longing to tell you and your heart is longing to hear.
Taking a sacred pause every day to listen to your life can have a profound effect on how happily you live it and share it.
Light and Beauty
Even at it's worst, there are moments of light and beauty in each day. Know that in opening your heart to the broken places of others, you'll begin to heal your own.
Like most reclamations in life, it's not easy or quick. But at its core, it's simple. As simple as helping a bird trust that it's oddly placed nest is in just the right spot.
Consider the possibility that if life doesn't move you to tears on a regular basis--tears of sadness, gratitude, laughter, wonder and love--you may not be living it deeply enough. Live deep.
-Kate Kerry Spencer | breathe-big.com
Living in the present and appreciating it for the gift that it is, even if the current circumstances are gut wrenching, is the surest path to a steady, sustainable joy.
We do not have to be saints, nor martyrs. We have the potential to be fully realized, heroic human beings, someone who is not defined by what has happened or is happening to them. Find a heroic person that you can walk beside, both for their sake and your own.
Your one and only is your life, right now, just as it is. Live it with as much courage, laughter, generosity and thankfulness as you can muster. Beautiful eternities can be lived in a single moment. Don’t wait.
One of the greatest gifts of being human is the sharing of stories. Tell your story, both for yourself and for that tribe waiting to hear it--and share their own--in this still-wild world.
The cost of loving is steep, even in the best of times. In the worst of times it can crack you open and cost you everything. The only antidote is to love more.
-Kate Kerry Spencer | breathe-big.com
There are people who are thriving even when the life they were living, the life they planned, is no longer an option. Others are just waiting for those circumstances to change, hitting the pause button, until their normal life can resume even though it may never come again. Let go of the life you planned and simply live as much life as you can.
Take That Big Breath
My mother, Imogene, used to say that God lives at the ocean and the tide is his breath. That’s a big breath, the kind that sets us free and binds our hearts to a greater mystery, even when our hearts are broken. Take that big breath.
As you head into the deeper water of your particular ocean of loss, you may find yourself either overcome by what’s happening or denying that it’s happening at all. Either response robs you of the opportunity to show up and be present and powerful for yourself and those you love. You don’t want to be so gutted by your circumstances that you miss these defining moments.
What habit will you choose?
We all smoke something to get through this life.
Some of our habits kill us . . .
And some of them set us free.
- Kate Kerry Spencer | breathe-big.com
A Little At A Time
It can be overwhelming, can’t it?
But you don’t have to do all of this at once.
You don’t have to know how to do everything.
Just take it a little at a time and breathe big.
Deal With The Real
Deal with what is, not what if, what might be, what should have been.
Deal with the real.
It's more than enough.
The human heart is more than just an organ; it powers the forces that can change the world. One of those forces is forgiveness.
Pie and Life
Waiting to fully live until the right set of circumstances comes along is like waiting for a pie to cook without ever turning on the oven. It takes some heat to get the gold, on a pie or in life.