life

How to Change the World Before You Get Out of Bed

How to Change the World Before You Get Out of Bed

So, climate change is real, people in high places can abuse power, and that soft, waffling flesh below your armpit is settling in for winter. Want a better world? Be a better you. 

By “better” I don’t mean smarter, thinner or richer. I don’t mean saint-like, martyr-like or reality TV-like.  I mean your very own version of your very best self. The one that you, and only you, wants to be, needs to be, and gets to be.

Spring Cleaning for the Heart and Soul

Spring Cleaning for the Heart and Soul

This winter was, for most of us, what my wise mother would have aptly described as “a long-ass haul.” No snow for Christmas, but plenty in March. Temps so low outside that the dogs’ breath crystallized at first pant. Days as brief and dark as a Kafka short story. Seriously. It’s good to finally be looking at winter mostly from the rear-view mirror now. So damn good.

How to Rebuild Your Life After It Breaks into Pieces

How to Rebuild Your Life After It Breaks into Pieces

In every life there are times when all we can do is hunker down, hang on, buy a bagel and wait for the shit storm to pass. Sometimes that storm comes from external factors beyond our control. The company we work for goes under, or goes in a new direction, or needs to reduce workforce, or is bought by a new company that doesn’t need us. And that’s all assuming we had the good fortune to be employed in the first place.

The Pursuit of Resilience

The Pursuit of Resilience

The ability to spring back from life’s setbacks, losses, tragedies and heartbreak is quite possibly the most essential skill for living a full, happy and healthy life. The acquiring of this skill can take a lifetime, but its acquisition is what makes life radiant on the best days and bearable on the worst.

For Children Who Were Born Old

For Children Who Were Born Old

I came into the world old. By that, I don’t mean an old, wise soul. I mean a child who was, from the beginning, overly familiar with death. By the time that I, the youngest child of a second marriage was born, my old father was on his way to dying and my young mother was in the deep end of the ocean caring for him.