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Becoming Yourself

Becoming Yourself

It’s true: A body in motion really does tend to stay in motion. For many of us, all that motion produces a satisfying adrenaline rush that comes from being a multitasking wizard. A modern version of Rene Descartes “I think, therefore I am” is “I do, therefore I matter.”

Many of us are defined by the work that we do—at our jobs, in our personal lives, and even how well we meticulously or haphazardly edge our patch of lawn, if we have one.

How to Find and Follow Your Heart

How to Find and Follow Your Heart

If we are lucky, we come into the world with healthy hearts that pump essential nutrients to our bodies and our brains for the duration of our lives. The heart is one of the most essential organs of our bodies and so intrinsically connected to who we are that it is also an iconic symbol of all that we love, long for, lose and recover throughout life.  When we are worried, we call it heartsick, when we are grief-stricken, we call it heartbroken, when we recover life or rediscover it anew, we call it heartening.  

How to Change Your Life in One Second Flat

How to Change Your Life in One Second Flat

We ask the people we love, we ask the people who matter to us professionally, and on a broader level, we ask the people we encounter as we go about our everyday lives: the cashier who takes your coffee order, the jogging neighbor you wave to from the car on the way to work, the elderly woman sitting across from you on the train.

The four questions rarely get asked with words, just as they're rarely answered with words. 

Five Ways to Learn to Love Again

Five Ways to Learn to Love Again

Life, as my mother used to say, is “the whole damn glorious story.” She was right. Pared down to the bare bones, there are three sure things in that damn glorious story of life: we are born, we live, and we die. Whatever the actual time we each have, within those years there is a lifetime of learning and yearning ahead of us. And if we dare to risk our hearts, there is a fourth certainty.

The Finder and the Found

The Finder and the Found

Closely-following events give us extraordinary opportunities to see the world, and each other, with new eyes. The eclipse reminded us of how small we are in relation to the universe, and Hurricanes Harvey and Irma remind us how integral we are to each other in the wake of disaster on the home planet.

Confluence

Confluence

When I saw the trees of Willow Springs I knew I was almost home. Soon, I would wake the sleeping dogs from the back seat of the Jeep and together, we would explore all the territory that lay ahead of us. For my young dog Gus, it would be a homecoming, for Cody, my mother’s dog that I had recently inherited after Mom’s move to an assisted living apartment, it would be a new life. For me, it would be a way to love my mother in absentia again. It had been that way between us for years: love from a safe distance. 

Seven Ways to Breathe Through a Broken Heart

Seven Ways to Breathe Through a Broken Heart

Some experiences in life will absolutely break your heart. Count on it. It comes with all the beautiful, staggering territory of being mortal. These are not the everyday losses or even things that feel like they break your heart in the moment. For example, when your ten year old insists that they must drink cola out of your great grandmother’s crystal cocktail glass and promptly drops it on the floor right after she says she won’t drop it. Now you have a set of five to pass on to her and a good story, but at the time your heart really hurt. I’m talking about the losses that cause us to question everything we believe in.